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This week our author Elena will share some reasons why you should (not) date a Russian woman.

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Matryoshka’s Diary author Elena

As some of you might know, I have been living away overseas (both in Europe and Asia) for a little while now. The first question my foreign male friends ask me when we get to know each other a bit better – how can I find a Russian girlfriend? Those, who already have one, will ask me what flowers (and most importantly, how many and of what colour!) should I give to my Russian girlfriend? Or, what was the name of that red Russian soup again? I put together this humorous piece so that you can make an informed decision for yourself – if dating a Russian girl is something for you. Below are my reasons why you should never date a Russian girl 🙂

They are too beautiful for you

The idea that Russian women have to look beautiful (at all times) is real. For the majority of us life is like a podium, and so we need to be prepared! We have to look sparkling (well, we enjoy looking sparkling!) even on the way to get fresh bread from a bakery or walking the dog. My girlfriends (and I am no exception here) wear high heels every day and doesn’t worry about the lack of comfort as soon as it looks great. “Why would we choose to not look beautiful? How is anyone going to notice your rich inner world if you don’t attract attention?”

The worst thing is that if you are going out with a Russian girl you will either have to dress up and put a lot of effort in looking nice, or everyone will be looking at you and wondering, how did a pretty lady like her end up with that slob?

You think loyalty is not cool

A Russian girl will be your most devoted friend, your best advisor, critic and even your doctor if you are sick. Ladies in Russia are caring and tender, and whatever happens, they will be by your side ready to face any challenges together. Remember that part of (the 19th century) Russian history? There was a riot against the tsar, and the aristocrats who participated in that riot were sentenced for a lifelong exile and hard labor in Siberia (in the middle of nowhere!). Their wives followed them voluntarily to cold deserted lands and shared the punishment.

A Russian woman truly believes that her partner is the best person on the planet, the most talented, the strongest, the smartest — and she is sincere about that, because she values herself highly too. And if she believes she is the queen, she’d only choose the king and treat him like the king – with respect, care, love and support. If you think loyalty is unnecessary and boring, don’t date a Russian.

You might get Russian parents-in-law

This is dangerous (run for your life!) Visiting your girlfriend’s house will be accompanied with feasts (soups, meat, soups with meat, salads consisting of 50% mayo, potatoes, more potatoes, bliny with mince and more potatoes, and then a cake or bliny for dessert), and as it is not polite to not finish your meal in Russia, you will have to deal with all that amount of food. You would expect help from your beloved, but when it comes to hospitality, all Russians tend to become unreasonable and overfeed their guests until it is hard to move. She will probably offer you another piece of pie or more bliny (or both!). Is dating a Russian girl worth putting on a lot of weight?

And don’t forget the initiation: her dad will most likely test you at some point. You should prove that the family can trust you with their precious child. Tests are different in each family. Some would have to drink a full bottle of vodka with your girlfriend’s dad. Otherwise, you would be considered too weak to protect their little girl in danger. And if you pass the test successfully, you might have to celebrate it with more cake!

They are too independent

Nekrasov, a Russian poet (19th century) said: “a Russian woman can stop a galloping horse and enter a house set on fire.” This is a powerful image of an independent woman who doesn’t really need any help or protection from men. Girls in Russia do not believe in ideal relationships and think that even if their Prince Charming finds them, they have to be able to live on their own. Building a career and getting a second degree often sounds more appealing than trying to find someone who will value their personality and freedom.

A Russian woman will be very independent in a relationship, and very stubborn, too. But on the other hand, expect bravery in danger and trouble, and the strength that will help both of you overcome the most difficult times.

Her (very) high expectations

Russian women are very demanding. They don’t want just a guy who will love them madly. They want the best man on the planet to love them madly. Good old manners are very important: you are expected to open doors, help to put on coats, bring flowers when you go on a date. If you are not a gentleman, it is not even worth trying.

But Russian women not only pay attention to what you do for them but also for everyone around. Don’t forget the others, be a valiant knight! Offer your seat in transport to elderly people and save a kitten from stray dogs.

The challenge of breaking the ice

Russians are reserved and try to keep the distance before you become close to them. Any Russian girl can create an impression of Ice Queen, even if she likes you (especially if she really likes you!). Slowly, step by step, you discover that underneath this ice there is the most loving and caring person in the world.

All the Russian food

For many Russian women cooking is a way to show their love, so be prepared for food experiments. At first, the cuisine might seem absolutely normal and even a little boring. But when you get to eat Russian food more often than during occasional visit to her parents, you will have more and more questions. What is that weird purple salad? Beetroot with herring? Pancakes with caviar? Why is she putting cabbage in pies (and everywhere else)? How many variations of pickles are there on Earth? Fermented rye bread drink…well, that one is surprisingly decent! You might hate most of the meals, but occasionally there will be something great (Russian salad! It is because there is no cabbage there)

Jokes aside, if after reading our blog you feel an urge to study Russian (so that can speak the native language of your Russian Princess), sing up for one of Enjoy Russian School courses.